Does Size Matter? Rewriting Desire, Power, and Pleasure on Our Terms

Sasha Star
Apr 15
3 min read

Updated: Apr 27

Let’s not pretend we haven’t all asked it — out loud in locker rooms, whispered between girlfriends, or screamed in our heads mid-hookup:

Does. Size. Matter?

It’s the age-old question that men obsess over, women giggle about, and society turns into a punchline. But in a world where pleasure is being reclaimed by women, where confidence is currency, and where shame is going out of style — maybe it’s time we stop letting size (of anything) define our experiences.

Spoiler alert: This article isn’t just about penis size.

It’s about how women have been conditioned to chase big things for the wrong reasons — and how to take the narrative back.

Let’s Talk About the Obvious: Genital Size

For the record: Yes, size can matter — but not in the way most men think.

It’s not about porn-star proportions or locker-room bragging rights. It’s about compatibility, confidence, chemistry, and skill. A massive package with no clue what to do with it? Useless. A more modest one attached to someone who listens, learns, and worships your body like art? That’s where the magic is.

Real talk: most women don’t climax from penetration alone. So while society’s been busy hyping up length and girth, we’ve been over here craving communication, connection, and clitoral attention.

Size matters only if it’s part of a bigger package — pun fully intended.

Beyond the Bedroom: The Obsession with Bigger, Louder, More

Let’s zoom out. We’ve been fed a lie our whole lives:

Bigger houses mean success.
Louder voices mean leadership.
Huge handbags, massive diamond rings, thick lashes, plump lips, long legs… everything’s about size.

But what if this constant pursuit of “more” is just another trap? Another way to keep women striving, comparing, and feeling never enough?

Because here’s the truth:

You don’t need to be louder to be powerful.

You don’t need to be thinner or thicker to be desirable.

You don’t need to have the biggest following, paycheck, or boobs to own a room.

The Size That Does Matter: Presence

Ever met a woman who walks into a room and everyone just feels her? She might not be the tallest, the richest, or the loudest. But her presence? Unshakable. That’s the size we should all be obsessed with — the kind that can’t be measured in inches or dollars.

Presence is built from self-trust, from knowing your worth in bed, in boardrooms, in breakups.

It’s the refusal to shrink, apologize, or conform.

It’s a quiet, relentless kind of power — and baby, it’s massive.

So, Does Size Matter?

Yes — but not in the way you think.

Size matters when it’s about:

Emotional capacity — can he hold space for your fullness?
Intellectual depth — can you f*ck with each other’s minds before the bodies even touch?
Ambition and purpose — is your life expanding or just taking up space?